Tamara Eva Carpenter

March 21, 1966 to June 2, 2018


On June 2, 2018, Tamara Eva (Tam) Carpenter did not go gently into that good night: She fought every step of the way, and kept her love of life and sense of humour to the end. She was a beloved aunt, niece, friend, and colleague, the best big sister ever, and probably Mom and Dad’s favourite, mainly because she rarely got caught. She was irreverent, smart, funny, beautiful, and a champion for the rights of women, the mentally ill, and the socially disadvantaged. As per her wishes, there will be no funeral service. We invite people to say their goodbyes at Carnell’s Funeral Home on June 8 and 9, 2018, and/or have a drink in her memory at the Ship Inn, on a date to be announced.

She received many flowers and gifts during her illness, so, if you wish to honour her memory, please donate in her name to Stella’s Circle or the Palliative Care Unit at the Miller Centre … or maybe drop off a tray of sandwiches or treats to the nurses and LPNs at a hospital in your community, because those people are truly amazing.

Heartfelt thanks, gratitude and love to “Tam’s Squad,” our family, our friends, the friends who have become family, the staff of St. Clare’s, HSC and the Cancer Care Clinic, and, last but not least, the angels who work and volunteer at the Palliative Care Unit. You are living proof that not all superheroes wear capes.

Tam, you’ll always be the pretty one. You are deeply missed.

Cremation has taken place. Visitation will take place at Carnell’s Funeral Home, 329 Freshwater Road on Friday, June 8th and Saturday, June 9th from 2-4 p.m. and 7-9 p.m.

To send a message of condolence please visit www.carnells.com.



2-4 p.m. on June 8, 2018

7-9 p.m. on June 8, 2018

2-4 p.m. on June 9, 2018

7-9 p.m. on June 9, 2018

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This is so sad and such a loss of a very kind and intelligent women, Tam was all that and so much more. Her and i hung out back in the mid 90’s and shared many a good time here in town and Clarinville and the cabin too. Some family get togethers and dinners and of course wine w my Mama, who also passed at the Miller Center 3 mths. ago. Unfortunately i hadn’t see Tammy in a number of yrs. but i did plan to visit w her when she was going to go back home, but she ended up at the MC. Bernice passed on messages to her fr. me. Good memories i remember fr. times gone by. I was working away during the wake and gathering at the Ship, otherwise i would have been there. I feel when those who are no longer with us in the physical realm, they sure move on elsewhere and can revisit us when we need them. Wishing you Pat all the strength to get through this sorrow and grief.

Very sorry to hear of your sisters passing at her young age. I met her at your Mom,s as she was my friend. I got to know her through Myra who is my good friend also.
God Bless
Brenda Cooper

My sincere condolences to Tammy’s family and friends. I have fond and funny memories of Tammy from our BSW days especially some of the group project meetings at Yvonne Penney’s apartment! Our paths crossed sporadically during the years since but when that chance meeting occurred, we could pick up a conversation without missing a beat. Clearly, she has left an impact on many. May she Rest In Peace. Cheryl Mallard (Miller) BSW Class 1989

So sorry to hear about Tammy’s passing. Sad that she had to suffer during her last days. I hadn’t seen her much since high school but will always remember her… condolences to the family.

Dear Patti and family:
I am so sad to hear of Tammy’s passing, way too soon.. I met her a few times at Maxine’s during family gatherings and was always uplifted by her no-nonsense but comical sense of humour and outlook on life. Thinking of you as you move through this difficult time.

Patricia ,I am saddened by the loss of Tammy.I worked with her in the EM Program for many years. We shared a few good laughs together. She was very dedicated to her work and loved her colleagues dearly! She will be missed!God Bless you and your family at this difficult time.

So sorry to hear this news. Tam was a great friend to me while we were studying social work at MUN. I will always remember our time in the society room and outside of university. She iwas in my view single handed lay responsible for dragging my sorry ass through the program sometimes literally

I was saddened to hear of Tammy’s illness and passing. Tammy and I went through the BSW program at Mun together. I have fond memories of her sense of humor and level headedness. I always respected her grounding and directness which often protected me from academic blunders. You will be truly missed by your clients and colleagues.

I was saddened to read about Tammy’s passing. My sympathies to all her family and friends during this time.

I met Tammy in the mid 1990s. She was a volunteer chair on a board overseeing several living arrangements for people with intellectual disabilities. I was hired as the executive director in my first big administrative job. Tammy made a great impression on me. She had a commanding presence – both physically and intellectually. And she was my anchor at that job for a few years. I don’t remember any other board members. But I do fondly remember Tammy and so many coffees and chats at her apartment by the lake. I will remember her no-nonsense attitude, her sense of humour, and, of course, that arching eyebrow!

My deepest sympathies are extended to the family

I first met Tammy in the early 90’s. I was immediately drawn to her irreverent sense of humour. She was smart, funny, kind and immensely likeable. She felt like a kindred spirit. I remember driving her home / picking her up a few times, when she lived on LeMarchant Road. The last time we chatted was on Water Street. About a year ago. Little did I know, on that sidewalk, in front of a Tim Hortons, that would be our last chat. Damn.

Tam touched countless lives. May we all follow her example. Rest easy sweet soul.

I was so sorry to open the paper and see Tammy had passed away. Some people make the world a better place just by being in it and Tammy was one of those people. It is a long time ago since we worked with common young people when she was in corrections and I was at Choices…… I will never forget her kindness and compassion and her sense of humour.

Sincere sympathy to her family.

Patricia and family, I wish to offer my sincere condolences on Tammy’s passing. Her passing will leave a void felt by many.

So sorry for your loss Patti. Tammy was an inspiration to all when she went to Clarenville High. She was a very kind hearted and loving person who usually picked up for others. She will be greatly missed. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your Dad during this difficult time.

Kim Lethbridge – McGrath

My sympathies to you all at this difficult time. Tam was one of a kind and was one of the first friends I had in university. We made it through Frosh week, and had many laiughs in those years

We hadn’t seen each other in many years but my fondness for her never faded. We didn’t have sororities, but we will be “Squires” sisters forever. She kicked you in the pants when you needed it and gave you the support you needed when you felt discouraged. She once sent me a message saying “You are no one’s doormat.I see you as strong and beautiful. Stand tall and be proud” <3 Godspeed my dear. You will be missed.

Tammy and I started work on the same day at DOSS on Harvey Rd many years ago. We actually walked up the steps together in front of the building but with her long legs and quiet determination, she entered the front door first thus for many years, claimed she had seniority over me. I remember how happy she was to “get out of the trenches” and continue her career with Adult Corrections. I often saw her at Atlantic Place with the same quick smile and twinkle in her eyes. My deepest sympathies to her family. May it be some small comfort to know that she has left her footprints on everyone who was blessed to have met her, both personally and professionally. She will be missed!

What a beautiful obituary – I am sure Tammy would whole-heartedly approve. It captures her strength and humour and spirit. I am grateful to have had the chance to work and volunteer with Tammy over the years, and to share some laughs with her. She will be missed.

Our deepest sympathies to you Pat and all the family on Tam’s passing . Take comfort in your memories of which there are many.
Lisa , Greg and Alex

Please accept our heartfelt condolences. We know Tammy will be missed by family and friends.
Jeanne & Wes Drodge.

It’s so difficult to believe and accept that Tammy is no longer here. My sympathies Pat to you and all of your family.
Before I left NL Tammy and I were best friends. We worked together at Social Services, hung out a lot at my house and spent a lot of time at her parents cabin. She had names for all kinds of situations which made us laugh our heads off. She loved Strongbow cider and Tim Hortons coffee and many a party we did have. She was wonderful , kind and funny and she leaves a void no one can fill. Rest In Peace my friend. Until we meet again.

I’m so very sorry that Tam lost her battle, Pat. May she rest in peace. You’re all in my thoughts at this sad time.

My condolences to the family,may you now rest peacefully with you’re mom.

My condolences to Pat and her family. I have known Tammy for a number of years, working along side her on the board of SJSWC as well as in the same division and building within Atlantic Place. Tams passion, intellect and humour was always present and she was highly regarded because of such. She made huge impacts on the work she devoted her career to and those lucky enough to have known and work along side of her. We are better because of her. She will be sadly missed

Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad time. Treasure the beautiful memories of your time together. Natalie and Danny Moody

I only had the pleasure of serving Tam coffee over the past decade or so but it was enough to get to know her spirit and personality. You could tell she was a leader with her calming presence and when she opened her mouth she was sure to make you chuckle. To her family and close friends and coworkers, you’ve got one hell of an angel looking out for ya now. Rest easy pretty lady.

Sorry for your loss .Tammy it was a pleasure to be of service to you at A P Parking . You will be surely missed
Marie /Karen /Gord

Please accept our sincere Condolences in the loss of your sister & daughter. We know she will be truly missed.
We are very sorry that we are unable to attend the visitation this week.
Ches & Claudia Drodge

Tammy was a fine neighbour of ours on Old Topsail Road for a number of years. We kept an eye on each other’s place when either one of us was away. I always enjoyed my chats with her. We wish to extend our condolences to Tammy’s family and friends.

All the best on this new Journey Tam, you are much loved and respected. We will miss you.

Rose and I are very sad to hear of Tammy’s passing. We know that quality of life is not measured in days, months or years . It is measured by how you impact your world and those people who are part of it . On that measure Tammy ‘s life was full and rich . When we think of her it will aways raise a smile because of the strength of her presence , her passion , and good humour .

Tammy and I worked together at corrections for many years, often times she was only a voice on the phone with her being in St John’s and I being in Labrador, her humour got us thru many stressful situations…she will be missed my her clients and co workers alike…my thoughts are with her family…